For me writing is a way to relax, to get out what I really want to say but just don’t know how to say it or who to say it to. I find it incredibly relaxing and therapeutic, almost like a form of mediation.
For example, ten minutes ago I was sat on the floor rocking myself back and forth feeling very anxious and having strong self harm urges. Now it’s a very different scenario. I’m sat on my bed writing this and listening to meditation music and already feeling 10 times calmer.
In fact one of the reasons I started this blog was to help me control my thoughts – to find a positive, constrictive way to combat the negative thoughts and destructive urges.
So take it from me, if you ever feel like you need a distraction or a coping mechanism to deal with something, be it anxieties or negative thoughts, then just write. Anything will do jut get your emotions out. Some examples of things you could do are:
● A stream of consciousness. Write whatever comes into your head – literally. You could maybe set yourself a time limit and see what you come up with.
● A diary/journal. Some people keeping a diary helpful, others not. I personally didn’t find it helpful because it was making me reflect on all the negative feelings I had from that day but then again I’ve known people who find it really rewarding and say it’s just good to get it off their chests. So like I said, it really depends on the individual.
● Expressive writing. Write down your deepest darkest thoughts, draw illustrations, anything, just get it all out on to paper. For some people this might be enough, if not then take it one step further by destroying what you wrote. You could rip it up, stamp on it, screw it up, burn it (safely please!), or just scribble all over it. This is symbolic of destroying the actual negative thoughts and can make you feel free from them even just for a little while. Plus it’s a great way of letting out any frustration or anger you may have.
I know people that use writing fiction as an escape from the real world and find getting lost in writing about an entirely different setting with their own characters a great distraction and after a break from reality their thoughts have become less intense.
I hope at least one of these ideas helps you and that you give them a go – it really does work for me!
~ Anna 🙂